Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Little Boys will one day be Men

Yes, they will - God help them. And I will one day find out the truth of this as I have three of 'em. Three testosterone filled little beings that love crude noises, think kissing girls is funny or gross and already, before reaching the milestone age of 10, think scrapes, cuts and wounds are the coolest thing to have.

Their latest love is Indiana Jones. They play the video games, they've watched some of the movies and he's their hero right now. Hey, I'm cool with that. Indy's way cool. They've outfitted themselves with robe belts to act as whips, they pull out their "Sunday" clothes to wear the top-two-buttons undone shirts, they found some old floppy hats (but not fedora's and trust me, I am hearing how they NEED fedoras *sigh*), and just today, they talked me into pulling out some of my makeup to dot 5 o'clock shadows on their baby jaws and give them realistic looking scrapes and cuts over their arms and faces. Turned out pretty good, if I do say so myself. They're even leaving everything in place to see if their dad will think their wounds are real.

As much as I am amused - even when I groan - at their pretend play, I step back and I can see where they are looking up to a man they want to emulate. This is when I step in and make sure they also notice his dedication and loyalty and perseverance. I know there will be others they will want to be like as they continue to grow, and I feel it's my job to not only encourage this, but to make sure they see the whole man, not just the rough and tumble parts.

I create, when I write, the kind of men who are whole. Yes, a fantasy man. :) They have their bad boy sides, their playful sides and then their compassionate - and very passionate - sides. I think of my own boys sometimes when I write. How will they grow up? Will they be able and willing to open up to the right woman for them? Will they love and protect her with their whole hearts while giving her the room to be her own woman at the same time? I guess I can only pray this will be true and only time will tell.

As for now, they get the rough and tumble parts. That's okay by me, too - as long as there are no broken bones. I know I can't shape them as easily as I can shape one of my characters, but I know I'm going to do my best. I suppose that's all I can do.

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