Better Late Than Never

I have been a very bad girl lately. (I've not been writing much). Instead, I've been reading like there's no tomorrow. Some bug bit me and I've been going through a TBR mountain that's been collecting for over a year probably. (Let's not even start of the books I have on my computer - jeesh). Some books in there I had bought new, some were second hand, some borrowed from friends, some ... I have no idea where they came from. Regardless, I've been moving through that stack and books I can't get into go to the give-to-second-hand-store pile and the others, obviously, go to my keeper bookcase.

Let me start off by saying my main taste in reading material is romance in practically any form. Contemporary, erotic, regency, paranormal, sci fi, to name a few. If it involves a couple or more individuals attempting to find that special someone (or someones), I'm snagged to check it out. I'd say probably 95 percent of my reading material falls into some kind of romance category.

I do not stifle myself, however, and I will read other genres. I like mystery, thrillers, some horror and even a few general fiction stories. It does help to make a person more well rounded, doesn't it?

Well, a couple of books in my pile were Janet Evanovich books, the Stephanie Plum series. Numbers 10 and 11. I've read several of Evanovich's romances and loved them but I kept putting the Plum books on the back burner. I don't really know why, and now that I've gobbled them up, I'm beating myself for waiting so long.

I cannot think of any book that I've had my hands on that has read faster, funnier and more engaging than these books. Part of my to-do list this week is to go out to get the ones I've missed! I promise you, once I started in, I could not - and did not - put them down. I let the kids have a hey-day with the video games just so I could curl up and read and laugh like crazy.

Man, I wish I could even think of writing with a comic flare like her. Yes, it's first person POV, which does usually throw me, but her writing is flawless. I don't care what the other characters are thinking because her (Stephanie) take is much more interesting. I'm envious of the dual relationship she has with the two alpha males (Joe and Ranger). I'm in stitches with her assistant (Lula)and her family makes my mouth gape. Beautiful, wonderful entertainment. If you ever get a chance to check one out, do so. You do not have to read them in any particular order, either, as I've discovered. Just crack one open, sit back and enjoy!

The Varied Names of Intimacy

Once upon a time, there was a man who visited three different women on three different nights. When he left woman number one, she told the man that had been the best sex she'd ever had. On night two, he left the second woman as she murmured that he'd been the best f**k she'd ever had. And on the third night, the third woman held him tight and whispered how she loved his lovemaking. The dazed man sat back on night number four with a beer and a few friends and wondered how three different women came to three different conclusions when in his mind, he'd done the same thing each time. "Well," asked one of his buddies, "what did you do each time?" He took a deep draw from his beer and looked at his friends mischievously. "What do you think I did? I screwed them!"



See friends, it's all about perspective. What one person sees as love, the other may see it only as the means to an end. Is one better than the other? Who's to say? Can the terms be interchangeable? Sometimes. It depends on the persons involved.



As a writer of erotica, I do focus on these terms and what they might mean to the characters involved. Can the same people be intimate at varied points and be able to call their joining making love at one time, f***ing another time and sex yet another time? Absolutely. Can I have people who get off thinking they're screwing someone? How about a character who is morally offended at the more vulgar term? Of course. Just as people are different, so to are the people I create. My job is to breathe life into characters who are varied and will have different thoughts or beliefs. If I do it right, they will eventually achieve balanced and mutual viewpoints so nobody ends up being the butt of a piss-poor joke like the one at the beginning.

Are You an AM or a PM?

Morning or night? It seems that everyone has a preference. Some people are "early birds" and get up even before the crack of dawn while others are "night owls" and would rather work and play under the moonlight.

Me, I do nights. Always have, always will probably. Let's put it this way, I don't even own an alarm clock anymore. With kids in the house, they wake me up!

I've been pondering this early/late issue very much lately. I've read, over the years, several accounts of authors who describe their days as waking up at 4 or 5 am and writing until it was time to go to work, or time to get the kids up. Pfft! Please. Kudos to them - and to you, if you fall into this category. My heart and head might be willing to go this route, but my body quite forcefully states, "hell, no!" Of course, the body wins this war.

I can understand the sense of waking up early. If a person goes to bed at a reasonable time, it stands to reason that he or she will wake up refreshed and rearing to go. On my end, I don't care what time I hit the sheets the night before, if the clock reads any time before 8 am, I'm useless.

Going back to why I've been mulling this over: I'm really wondering if my keeping to a PM schedule effects my writing, in a consistent, writing-every-day sense. I try to write something every day but there are some days when the kids have been going nutso all day and the animals are just as crazed and the husband gets on the nerves and dinner was a hastily put together mess that you don't even want to admit you served to your family and then -- when everyone finally settles down and gets out of your way and the burnt pans are scraped clean -- it is so late and you are so exhausted that even taking a soothing bath seems like too much trouble. On these days, I can't seem to muster anything to write. Do AM people have mornings like this, too? Just on a backward scale? I really want to know.

You see, if morning people have their rotten AM's every once in awhile (I cannot begin to think what would set it off, however, unless it was a bad sleeping night), then I can continue to be content with my PM schedule, confidant in knowing that rough patches are going to hit and to simply weather through.

Computers - the bane of a writer's existence

Okay, contrary to the title, I have to admit writing with a computer is world's easier, faster and better than writing longhand or using an electric or manual typewriter (giving my age here, folks).

{I shake my head sadly with the upcoming thought}

Yes, is some ways it IS better, but I will probably go to my grave with the sure knowledge that computers are strictly a necessary EVIL.

That EVIL is better known as, "Where the hell is my document?!?!?"

Yep, it's happened to all of us, I'm sure. Whether it's in Word or online in a blog, you have undoubtedly labored over characters and words and phrases and paragraphs, only to touch one button - or worse - have an internet, page or power failure and the next thing you know, your precious letters have gone bye-bye.

Would this sort of thing have happened had you been typing on an electric typewriter? Or writing with pen in an notebook?

I have to give the benefit of the doubt, though. The old ways did have their problems. Let's see . . . maybe you flicked the ashes from your cigarette (with typewriters you had smoking, eh?) and a spark flew off and landed on the pile of neatly typed pages and they burned up. Or, or, maybe your child decided to use your notebook of carefully penned stories as paper to make sailboats out of. Am I reaching here? Oh well. Gotta try.

A plus to this story - sometimes, when you have to do something over again, it does come out better than the first time around.

For the love of Coffee and Sunday afternoons

I love my coffee. I drink way too much of it in fact, but I can't help it. It's warm and yummy and keeps my headaches at bay. Yes, laugh at that twisted thought. I drink coffee when I wake up. I drink coffee when I'm at the computer (a must). I drink coffee when I'm reading a great book (unless I've opted for a relaxing glass of wine, then the coffee comes after). I even drink a little coffee before I crash at night. I sip at my coffee with lots of smooth cream swirled in and absolutely no sugar or sugar knock-off. You don't call me sweet.

My adoration of coffee isn't a stand-alone, however. I have to have an accompaniment of snack. Not a lot. But I have to have a nibble next to the cup or to dip in. Biscotti, scones, crackers, chocolate chip cookies - I'm usually not too picky - but it has to be full of carbs or it never seems to go right.

This all adds up to a wonderful way to spend a little break time on a Sunday afternoon: a freshly perked cup of coffee, a couple of chocolate chip cookies placed nearby, a working computer at which to happily type away and a warm cat curled in my lap.

This is my Calgon moment. :)

What's in a name?

As a writer, there are many facets of the written word over which I labor. Amazingly, one of the initial focus points in a new work regards names of the characters. Sometimes I have names before the story even develops and sometimes I find myself nearing the end and saying to myself, "he's really more of a "Ben," than a "John." It's all a fascinating process.

The process of name-giving that surprises me the most is when I already have a name for a character, but when my fingers touch the keyboard, another name appears. Take the other day, for instance. I poured over what to call one of my main characters and finally came up with one I thought worked well. Let's call her Erin. I began writing away and about ten pages or so later, it hit me that Erin had become Erica - and right from the start! The Erica in my head, lurking in my thoughts, finally popped up to correct me. About time, I thought with a roll of my eyes. Sometimes those ghosts that shadow me are a sneaky lot!

Fights in Real Life vs Fictional Fights

When I read or write a story, I find I can really get into the fight scenes. No, I don't mean the physical knock-downs (even though those can be entertaining). I'm talking about the fighting with words, with voices, with emotion and pain and hurt all rolled together. I can't really say, I "like" them, poor word choice, but I'm okay with them.

Why? Most of the time, a fight between characters serves a greater purpose. True sides of a character may come to light, or issues can be pushed to the brink, allowing the characters involved to reach a resolution. But no matter how the fight comes to be or progresses, I, as a reader, am confident that the fight scene is meant to be. I know the end will work out. I know, especially if the fight is between the hero and heroine, they will eventually forgive each other and come out stronger.

In the real life, fights absolutely suck. Words are spewed from mouths bared with a snarl. The things that are said intend to maim, hurt, eviserate. Whatever comes back at you, you have to scramble to defend, because what you're being hit with is just as vile as what you're dishing out.

Perhaps the worst thing about fights in reality . . . you don't know how they will end. You don't have that "it'll be okay," back-up. Will the venom that was dished out do more than just sting? Will it fester, ache, spread until you're left starting at the ceiling and cursing yourself, wondering why oh why did you say or do the things you did? Or maybe you're wondering if the same is true with the other person in the fight. Did you cause irrevocable harm? Will things ever be the same again? Is forgiveness even possible after some of the things reveled?

And what do you do then, when reaching the other peson is not a possiblity? Me, I escape. If I don't, I'll be a puddle of worthlessness and pity and worry that does no one any good. Instead, I'll go read something where I do know there is a happy-ever-after, even if it may not be so with me. At least, until the inevitable confrontation with the other party occurs, and only God knows how something in the future will turn out.

I don't care who thinks a fight is a good thing. I just don't see it, unless I know I can turn the page to see an actual reconcilation.

That's all for now. Happy reading!